You're Not Like Them

Unleashing toxic self-tethering; Surrendering to a new state of being, living, & loving.

Hello Loves.

Let’s begin here. I wrote this channeled insight in my journal last night:

“Resolution (past) + forgiveness (self and others) + open heart + receptive mode ( quote Abraham Hicks) = new roads, doors and neural pathways in the body to align and appear.”

You would think I discovered a new mathematical equation and a secret sacred geometry formula the way my whole body lit up!…. or did I ? *insert gemini smirk.

So I said, ‘OK Spirit… it appears that you want me to explore the interconnectedness of personal growth, forgiveness, openness, and the manifestation of new possibilities in life.’ I mean, it is a New Moon. Let’s do it.

And by ‘let’s do it’, I mean let’s actually go there- to the core- to where the core fear sits, which is in the seat of forgiveness. Releasing the ties that we have tethered ourselves to- hurt and those that have hurt us, releasing the ties to the way we have hurt ourselves and the shame and guilt that is born from those life-altering decisions. I want to start with practical techniques for forgiveness; as this conversation will be full of practical, simple, #gentlereminders, so let’s jump into forgiveness:

• Journaling: Start a practice of keeping a forgiveness journal. This is the only place you will write about your feelings, resentments, and the events that led to the hurt. You can reflect on these entries and try to ‘pull a thread’ of compassion for yourself and release the stories and thoughts that are too heavy and no longer needed for your path to expansion.

• Meditation and Mindfulness: I just shared this in a corporate mindfulness session last week: the importance of actually practicing relaxation techniques to turn ON the relaxation response in the body. These practices help us to observe our thoughts and emotions without judgment. Meditation can provide a space for reflection and allow a deeper cultivation of compassion for ourselves and others. My rule of thumb is, ‘if I can do it for me, I can do it for you!’

• Self-Compassion Exercises: This one is about as practical as we can get: speak kindly to yourself. Everyday. Acknowledge your suffering (and triumphs!), and recognize that you are not exempt from making mistakes.

• CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) Techniques: This one will definitely take us into another conversation on its own; however, seek, ask, and find a practitioner who is knowledgeable and trauma-informed in their approach to cognitive restructuring techniques to help you challenge and reframe negative thoughts associated with past grievances. The end result we’re looking to feel is somatic evidence in the brain and body in replacing thoughts of resentment with thoughts of understanding and acceptance.

• Letter Writing: A letter to yourself or to the person who caused the hurt, even if it's never sent, is a powerful practice of releasing and making room in the brain and body for more aligned thoughts and experiences. There is a cathartic release that happens when you activate this power of handwriting and alchemy. Whatever resistance you feel in your body will transmute itself through your words and feelings. Try it. Trust it.

• Gratitude Practice: It’s the most simple and subtle practices that are often the hardest to embody and trust. Seriously, making an effort every day to focus on what you're grateful for can shift your perspective and help you let go of resentment.

• Setting Boundaries: Setting healthy boundaries is not just to build a sense of safety and defense from others; but it is a powerful declaration to yourself, like a vow to protect yourself from further harm (self-inflicted harm, too). Boundaries bring wisdom. Forgiveness doesn't always mean reconciliation, and it's okay to prioritize your own well-being.

• Practice Patience: The most important practical #gentlereminder I can share: Forgiveness is a process that takes time. Please be patient with yourself and allow healing (growing) to happen gradually.

Say this with me:

“ I am worth the time it takes to embody the forgiveness and compassion I desire; and to practice releasing it with ease for others.”

“Releasing Fear”. a coffee shop capture. Kira’s lens.

Well. Do you see why we started at the core? Our core fears are embedded deep within the imprint of our soul’s existence in this lifetime and many others. Your path of acknowledging and releasing core fears automatically activates the cord of core desires attached. They are one in the same! It really is an experience of the Universe revealing more of your life keys and codes locked within your body as you clear the debris and musk of anger, frustration, worry, and more. THIS is how the emotional intelligence of your body aligns and activates new neural pathways and the reconstruction of habit formation.

Neural pathways are like roads in our brains, formed by interconnected neurons that communicate with each other through electrical and chemical signals. These pathways are responsible for our thoughts, behaviors, emotions, and habits. When we repeatedly engage in a particular thought or behavior, the neurons involved in that process strengthen their connections, making the pathway more efficient.

Let me ‘cliff note’ this anatomy lesson even further and bring you straight home to this point: When someone continually has traumatic experiences, it alters the neural pathways in their brain. Conversely, when we initiate therapeutic activities with repetitive (practice) tasks, it strengthens existing neural pathways or stimulates the formation of new ones.

Why is this valuable information?

Photo by Ahmad Odeh

This information is valuable and life-altering with so much importance because if I can access and activate new neural pathways, I am also opening access to new life experiences, to environmental changes, and to reversing brain damage. I am also accessing and activating physiological changes in my body, like physical shifts in my face, my gut my heart, and my very DNA makeup; including how I respond reflexively because of genetic hardwiring.

So, *takes deep breath* …..shall we continue practicing relaxation and therapeutic techniques; so that we can increase the relaxation response in our body and release energy, people, stories, and experiences that do not align vibrationally with everything we are asking for and trying so hard to manifest?

Let me know what you decide. I’ll see you on the new path.

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One more thing…

I’m sharing practical tools to shift the brain and body and more… in this Wednesday’s IG Live Devotion and in the evening New Moon Virtual Rest Portal. Join me!