//energetic sovereignty//; the sacred act of owning and honoring your energy as your own. It is the practice of being fully present in your power, setting clear boundaries, and consciously choosing what you give and receive, ensuring your energy remains aligned with your highest truth and purpose.
It began as a simple act of kindness—an offering extended with an open heart and good intentions. My partner and I, weeks before our journey to Costa Rica, chose to step into service for someone in need. What unfolded, however, became a tangled web of blame, distortion, and vilification (I can hear my good friend Rashida now: “Oh! This is a good word for ‘English for the College Bound’…lol.
In a moment, our efforts were reduced to a misunderstood narrative, and we found ourselves woven into a story not of our own making.
This experience reawakened something ancient in me: the recognition of old energetic patterns that persist through people and situations. They may wear different faces—a parent, a friend, a lover, or a community member—but the underlying energy carries the same lessons, the same invitations. And here I am again, standing at the edge of another precipice, asking the same aching questions:
Do I want to be at peace, or do I want to be right?
Why does honoring my integrity feel so painful at times?
Is it painful? …Or is it new? …A new way of speaking up for myself or allowing the energy to transmute itself.
Like most of us around this time, I find myself sandwiched between two layers of thought within this ‘end-of-year devotion’:
What was my greatest rose or thorn (invitation) this year (2024)?
What is my word or code for expansion for 2025?
2024 was a year of spaciousness for me. That was the code that unlocked so much potential, regulated my nervous system and cortisol, and kept the feminine urge between my thighs thriving and throbbing: SPACE AND BREATH.
Even now, I sit with all the ways I allowed the unraveling of words, thoughts, miscommunication, and accusations from this experience to just breathe. Without rushing to fix it, mother it, defend it, share it, or even grieve it.
I have to say, I’m impressed with my damn self (I see you, Kira). Not only did I not have the capacity to hold this intrusive energy of discord and confusion- because we were preparing for a whole retreat of 20+ people traveling our way… catches breath …
… I, also, did not have the desire to be right. My desire was (…is always) peace. So I blocked, remained silent, placed the experience on my altar, prayed for the peace and protection of all parties involved, called my power back, and anointed my Ori, standing in energetic sovereignty.
Because, no. Periodt.
How Do You Honor Your Energetic Boundaries?
How do you honor the sovereignty that comes with keeping your aura and frequency/channel clean? How do you know when the practice {your spiritual practice} is calling you to ‘let whoever think whatever, just keep getting better (at boundaries)’?
Aren’t you glad I asked?! …smile
Here are a few #gentlereminders from a deeeep journal entry:
Signs of Expired or Misaligned Energetic Contracts
How do people respond when you honor your boundaries? Do they get upset or attempt to project guilt or shame when you say yes, no, or not right now- from your core desires?
Do they consider your time, energy, and capacity when asking or demanding more connection with you?
Is there reciprocity in how your needs are anticipated—not necessarily in the same measure, but with similar intention?
Do they ask questions for clarity or consider various perspectives when expressing concern or disappointment with you?
Is there a self-absorbed pattern of repeating the same stories, trapping you both in loops of blame or victimhood?
Every story needs a "villain." Trust that if there is a recurring pattern, it is an invitation to ask Spirit to reveal the part you play. Remember, at some point, you may become the villain in someone else’s story.
And in knowing this inevitable truth:
How do you keep your power? Again, do you want to be right, or do you want to be at peace?
My reasons for the boundaries. Family. San Jose, CR. 2024
Honoring Boundaries and Navigating Misunderstanding
There is a unique pain in holding firm to your boundaries when it risks being misunderstood. In the aftermath of our experience, I wrestled with the discomfort of being seen through a distorted lens. But I’ve come to understand that integrity doesn’t always feel comfortable.
Sometimes, it requires standing alone, trusting that the clarity of your intentions will speak louder than the noise of misperception.
Boundaries are not walls; they are doorways to deeper authenticity.
They create the space for clarity, respect, and mutual growth—even if it means temporarily walking away from a relationship or dynamic.
Devotional Reflection
As you read this, I invite you to sit with these questions:
What energetic contracts in your life feel misaligned or heavy?
Where are you being called to honor your boundaries more fiercely?
What old patterns are asking to be released, and what might you learn from them?
Can you choose peace over being right, and what would that look like in practice?
I am grateful for the resolve in my heart—that I hold no fault toward the people involved, but I see the energy and familiar spirits that used these vessels to bear this gift and invitation to me.
I am grateful for a partner who is committed to honoring the discomfort of our humanity~ together, for it is a sign that we are growing. I invite you to trust that in releasing what is not yours to carry, you are making space for something far greater to emerge.
Perhaps, 2025 is offering you a code to unlock your energetic sovereignty right now. Make room to hold more of your own energy. This is the work of keeping your energy clean & clear. This is the art of spiritual audacity. This is the embodiment of freedom, self-respect, and divine accountability for your spiritual, emotional, and energetic space.
I am deeply grateful for all the ways you’ve read, shared, and integrated these Divine Love Notes and invitations from this year. May we continue the practice of this kind of Devotion together in 2025. Love is you.
Kira.
Yes, There’s deeper integration. No paywall this month, I really want to extend this gift to all that are open to receive this frequency:
Offerings
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See you on the other side.
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